I was talking with a friend yesterday. She is feeling quite frustrated- she has been trying to find a man to date on both e-harmony and match.com but is not having such good luck. She lamented that she has been stood up and lied to by several of these men. And, she is pretty sick of it.
She also said, though, that they have done her a favor right off the bat by revealing who they really are. She said something that I think is quite profound:
"If you just listen to people, they will tell you exactly who they are."
I thought about it. Then, replied, "Trouble is, we do not listen to people. We want them to be who we want them to be and not who they are trying to tell us they already are."